Let’s say you have two school-aged children, and you’re expecting your third baby in several weeks. You aren’t having any luck coming up with a name for the baby. Should you ask your older children for their input?
On the one hand, their suggestions might help steer you in the right direction, or get you excited again about the naming process, or even be good enough to take as-is and use as the baby’s name.
On the other hand, if you don’t take their suggestions, they might get upset. If you take a suggestion from one but not the other, the left-out child will probably feel slighted. If your children somehow convince you — with the sweetness of their voices, perhaps — that a bad name sounds lovely, you might agree to use it without thinking things through.
Is asking older children for baby name advice a good idea, or is it a can of worms not worth opening?
UPDATE: Here’s a more recent post about older siblings voting on a baby’s name.